Leading up to our wedding, I was so prepared. I had everything sorted and had no stress, aside from worry about our caterers completely ballsing up our wedding. Everything I could control, I had control over.
The morning of the wedding, I woke up at 8, had breakfast with my family at the hotel and then went to the wedding venue. I didn’t have any stress. I had a glass of breakfast prosecco, and got my hair & make up done. I was chilled.
I think being super organised helped me quite a bit. I knew all the details, had communicated effectively with everyone and had ensured everything was delivered on time to our venue.
I found the easiest way to get organised was to track everything spreadsheets (like a psycho) and in actual written down format in a notebook that I kept on me at all times.
Here are my top tips for successful planning & execution of your big day.
Start Planning Early
If you’ve got a date in mind, and it’s two years away, it doesn’t mean you need to wait until you’re closer to the date to start planning. Start early and spread out the work. It’ll save you loads of stress. We had a year long engagement, and whilst our day was pretty chilled out and we wanted an easy day, it still required a lot of work and detail. Having a clear plan of what you want and how to get there, will really reduce your stress levels.
Sort Your Budget, ASAP
Figuring out what you want to spend and what you can afford to spend will save you lots of headaches. If you know you can only spend £10k, then keep that in mind and work your way back. Plan around when you can buy things and how you’ll get them (and store them). For example, if you know you want to have a drinks station like we did, buy the decanters / dispensers after the summer season is over when they’re on offer. Planning your purchases with your budget will help you out.
Rely on helpful friends and family
I admit, I did 99.9% of the planning myself. I mostly used my friends and family as a sounding board for things (i.e. what did they think of my flower choices, the invite options, etc), but all the nitty gritty details, I did on my own. I enjoyed putting together the little bits by myself or with my husband. I stuffed all the confetti bags myself and built 120 favour boxes tied with ribbons! I wish I had relied on people more to do little tasks, but didn’t want to make them feel obligated to help me.
Determine who you want to invite, and narrow your list down.
We all have people we are obligated to invite, but keep that list small. If you write your list down, it’ll help you figure out key details like your venue and your caterer as cost per head is going to be your biggest expense. Don’t be guilted into inviting people to your wedding that you don’t want there. My husband and I decided to have a child-free wedding, which saved us loads of money.
Plan your suppliers by doing loads of research
Your photographer is going to be one the most important (long term) bookings for your day. Do loads of research and read lots of reviews to decide who you want and don’t want. Your wedding album is how you’ll relive your cherished memories for years to come, so don’t underestimate the importance of a good photographer.